The journey to weight loss and healthier living often gets mired in surface-level tactics, but what truly makes a difference is digging deeper into the root causes, as highlighted by Dr. Kristin Neff and psychotherapist Jean Fain. It’s about shifting focus from external dieting methods to internal self-compassion and understanding.

Self-compassion, as Neff describes, is a powerful mental health ally, leading to less depression, anxiety, and more happiness and optimism. It’s about treating ourselves with the same kindness and concern we would show a friend or loved one. This approach is pivotal in correcting bad eating habits and achieving sustainable weight loss.

The ‘kind diet’ approach suggested by Fain resonates deeply with me. It emphasizes that the best way to look and feel your best isn’t through harsh dieting but by starting with loving who you are. This approach is especially beneficial for those with low self-compassion, as it fosters self-acceptance and encourages sticking to healthy diets and lifestyle changes.

In practice, self-compassion means turning around the inner critic and responding compassionately to less-than-ideal food choices. It’s recognizing that managing eating issues is a journey, not a short-term endeavor. The four roots of sustainable weight management as identified by Fain – self-compassion, mindful eating, hypnosis (visualization), and social support – provide a holistic framework for this journey.

Mindful eating, an aspect I find particularly impactful, involves full attention to the eating experience – noticing the colors, smells, textures, flavors, and even the sounds of our food. It’s about being present and aware of our body’s hunger and satisfaction signals.

Incorporating practices like self-hypnosis or relaxation visualization can also be beneficial. These techniques focus attention and open the mind to positive suggestions and changes in how we relate to food.

Lastly, social support plays a crucial role. Surrounding ourselves with a positive, supportive community can significantly influence our weight loss journey.

Moving beyond mere tactics to the root causes of our eating behaviors and attitudes involves embracing a compassionate approach towards ourselves. This method aligns with my belief in understanding and addressing deeper reasons behind our actions and choices. It’s not just about losing weight; it’s about fostering a healthy relationship with food and ourselves.


Read more at: How to Practice Self-Compassion, Lose Weight and Feel Good About Yourself - The Positive Psychology Foundation

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